I figured I'd write an entry on my impossible standards for people. This is the list of important factors I consider when making friends.
1. Timeliness. You must always be on time. If you are late, I feel disrespected.
2. Proper grammar and spelling. If you haven't got the skills, at least show me you're trying.
3. Respect. Respect. Respect. Respect me and my opinions, and I'll respect you and yours.
4. Reciprocating of actions. If I go out of my way for you, you better go out of your way for me.
5. Logic. Use it. I don't like when illogical situations come my way. If you're reacting to all situations emotionally without using your head, then I don't care to know you.
6. Intelligence. This is very important. If you have intelligence, I almost guarantee I'll like you - whether I agree with your points of view or not. If you don't have intelligence, don't try and act like you do - that's just annoying.
7. Loyalty. Be there for me, no matter what. I'm not saying you have to be on my side in every argument (say, if you don't agree with it) but at least support me.
8. Criticism. Criticize me. All the time. I want to know my mistakes, and I love criticism. I see criticism as someone caring enough about someone else to improve them. Please don't let me continue to make the same mistake.
9. Compliments. Boost my ego, please. That is always appreciated and needed.
10. Stability. I don't want a friend who is one thing one minute and another the next. Keep it consistent. I don't want to be questioning what you're feeling/thinking about me all the time. Keep your plans with me unless there's a perfectly good reason to reschedule, and never reschedule at the last minute. I hate that.
11. Understanding. Try and understand me, and I'll try and understand you. All I ask is for you to try.
12. Open-mindedness. Keep an open mind. I believe many things people would find unconventional, so all I ask is my opinions and beliefs not be discriminated against.
13. Humor. Make me laugh. This is also very important. If I can't laugh and have a good time with you, then I don't see how we can be any sort of friends.
14. Challenge me. Challenge me mentally. Make me think. Bring up tough and/or controversial subjects. An idle brain is one of the worst things I can think of.
15. Just care. That's all I ask. Care about me and most likely I'll care about you, just out of respect for how much effort it may take.
Now, these are in no particular order. I estimate that I require roughly 13/15 of these requirements to be filled in order to have a successful friendship. Some of these factors are more important than the others, and they have to be present. Such as: #4, #5, #6, #8, and #15. While the rest are all important, I feel these are of the highest importance.
If I consider you my friend and you break one of these requirements, then I tend to feel disappointed and irritated. I feel as if I put effort forth into forming an emotional attachment to you, you should at least meet my list of factors almost constantly. I do forgive people easily, though I do make sure they know what they've done wrong and that they'll attempt to change it in the future.
Now, these are what I consider my impossible standards for people. I am incredibly selective when it comes to people, and these are the guidelines I have. Just another little look into the inner workings of myself.
03 July 2011
My Impossible Standards
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3 comments:
If nothing else, it's a good list for "self improvements."
Numbers 3, 4, 5, 7, 10 and 15 just seem like common sense.
Yes, they are common sense, but sometimes people need to be reminded of common sense, unfortunately.
Well, at least you can admit that these standards are impossible!
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